Monday September 9, 2019
Every adult knows that moving to a new home in a completely new environment is way up there on the stress chart. Think of that stress level as being multiplied by a factor of at least ten when that move includes young children. There are some ways you can cope with this, so everybody winds up in the new home in a state of peace and composure.
Start Packing Early
When small children are involved in a relocation, you must allow about twice as much time as you would moving older children and adults. The one caveat here, however, is not to start so early that your whole house is in turmoil for months because many essentials are packed up and cannot be used. Only pack nonessentials early, such as items of home decor, a turkey roaster if you are moving in May, or patio furniture if you are moving in November.
Little kids need their toys, so pack the less-used and off-season toys the night before the move when the kids are asleep. They are traumatized enough by the all the changes taking place and you don’t want them to be more afraid. You want to stress the good things about the move and make it a positive experience for them and you.
This is not a good time to introduce new events such as potty training, moving them from a crib to a bed or even introducing new foods. Keep everything as familiar as possible to smooth out the anxieties they are sure to feel.
Visit The New Home With Them
If distance doesn’t preclude a visit to the new neighborhood, take some time to visit the home with the kids before the move. Show them their room and the surroundings so they feel more comfortable about their new home. Remember, they are leaving friends, family and a familiar environment, which all create difficulties for them. Kids like routine, so tell stories about how nice their new place is going to be for them whether or not you can make a physical visit.
If visiting the new house isn’t a possibility, weave a story around it with clear descriptions of each room, the yard and recreational opportunities. Show them photographs if possible.
One of the worst things for small children in a relocation is the lack of control they have over it. Involve them in as many of the moving activities you can that pertain to their belongings. Let them pick out the toys they want to have with them on moving day, whether the transportation is by car, air, bus or train. Do not purchase new furniture for their new bedroom, move it all to the new place and if possible, arrange it the same way it was in their old room.
The Day Before The Move
The day before you move out, give each of the kids a big box to pack their remaining toys in and other beloved items so they won’t suffer from separation anxiety. Making sure those things will not be left behind will help ease their minds. Label each box with the child’s name or have them decorate it so they can easily identify it as soon as possible upon arrival.
For some kids, it would be wise to have them stay at a friend’s or relative’s home while the moving vans are being loaded to avoid temper tantrums, so plan to arrange for this if necessary.
Moving day will be very personal and emotional for everyone. Let the little ones wave goodbye to their home, neighborhood and all that is familiar, so they have a little venting time for their emotions to escape.
Above all, try to make the whole relocation event as a positive move and sparkling new beginning for the entire family. To make the move as smooth as possible, contact the relocation experts at Landmark 24 Homes. They have been helping people successfully relocate since 2009.